You know, the phrase: "I can only be held responsible for what i say, not how you interpreted it" has never really sat well with me.
Yes, to a certain extent, i agree with the statement. You never know how your words/actions are going to be interpreted by someone else. But i do think there is a certain level of control you have over the situation. Likewise, i think there is a certain level of responsibility you have to take in the situation.
For example, say you jokingly walk up to someone and punch them on the arm. You may not have meant to hurt them or upset them, but that doesn't mean they aren't going to be hurt/upset. And if you don't take the extra step to say sorry or i was just playing, then the responsibility falls completely back on you.
I think that's the part I've never liked about that perception vs intention thing. Its one thing to acknowledge that you can't control other people's initial interpretation, but once you see that your words/actions have been misinterpreted and you chose to do nothing (or worse, fan the flame)...then yes you are solely at fault.
This type of foolishness has happened to me twice this week already. And it just irritates me to no end. As i'm sure those of you who have been following along for a while can tell, i'm very big on personal responsibility. And this is one of those types of things that i wish people would just buckle down and take responsibility over. Because its little sparks like this (misinterpreting intentions, unclear communication, finger pointing, etc) that turn into roaring flames.
Pardon my ranting. Hope everyone else's September is starting off well. And those of you stateside had a nice Labor Day weekend. Summer is officially-unofficially over :(
All you single folks...Cuffing Season is upon us. I hope you are doing your due diligence in finding a cold-weather-friend *hint hint wink wink*
Oh yeah, and Happy Hump Day!