Tuesday, March 12, 2013

Bribery and Perceptions

Something weird happened to me a week or two ago. A friend (honestly, more like an associate) tried to bribe me in order to do him a favor. It wasn't an obvious bribe. He called and made small talk, then said some nice things, offered to do something for me, then casually slipped in that he needed a favor from me and in a roundabout way said that he had already obligated me to doing the favor anyway.

The favor in and of itself wasn't that big of a deal...though it was pretty important. I would have gladly done it even without all the extra bs. And to be honest, it all happened so fast that i just said yeah sure, its not a problem at all- because it really wasn't.

But once i actually sat and thought about what had just transpired, i felt some kind of way about it. Like, did this dude really feel like it was necessary to legit bribe me to do a simple favor? Or did he just think i was too stupid to realize that he was buttering me up?

I thought i was going to be mad about it. But really, i'm just kinda hurt. For someone who knows me (or at least my persona) well enough to even ask for such a favor to go to such lengths bothers me. It bothers me not just because its kinda foul, but because anyone who knows me knows that i'm a soft touch. If you ask me for something or for assistance with something, if its in my power (and even sometimes when its not), i'm going to help you. That's just the kind of person that I am.

But it definitely had me questioning how i am perceived. Do i give off the vibe that you need to kiss my ass in order for me to do something for you? I didn't think so, but who knows?

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  1. I know the feeling dear. It hurt to the bones , making one feel used. I have come to put up a front and be tough looking these days so I am not easily taken advantage of any more, most especially by my siblings.

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    1. Well i'm not really concerned that the person wanted the favor, more so why they made themselves jump through hoops to get it when they could've just asked. I'm sure it would've made more sense if i went into a lot more specifics lol

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  2. Just assume everyone is going to try and use you. Sucks but there you go

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    1. I actually do assume that...for the most part. My faith in humanityand human decency is relatively low

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  3. Relax woman,it happens.Some people don't know how to ask for favours,hence the buttering up.I know you're nice and all and would gladly help when it's in your power to do so.While we're on the topic,could you do me a favour and buy me a Chevrolet Camaro 2011 edition? *grin*

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    1. I am relaxed sir lol. Besides i doubt thats the case since he's never had any issue asking for favors before so... yeah.

      And you gets no car from me. :P

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  4. I think it may be less about you and more about them. They may have found that approaching people that way helps them get what they want easier than just asking directly. Don't take it as reflection of who you are but rather of who they are otherwise you will drive yourself batty.

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    1. Yeah, i've pretty much come to that conclusion cuz im freakin awesome lol

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    2. Definitely going with Chuwechuwe's comment. Its not you. Its them.
      Yes You are.

      Awesome :)

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  5. Hmmm... Some people buzz me and when they do, I am like, what now?

    I concur with A-9ja_Great in all but one thing
    An Audi A4 2011 will do me just fine

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    1. Yeah, i have a lot of ppl like that too lol. As far as the cars go, you and 9ja-Great shall both go wanting.

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  6. Interesting post. I'm a very direct person but find that people seem to like being 'buttered' to do a favour. I just can't do that because it's not me. It's fake and unnecessary. I ask nicely but I'm quick to the point. And I expect the same too.

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