I was reading a post over at NakedWithSocksOn that really got me to thinking...Basically the post was about a young man who just got married but didn't want to sleep with his wife without a condom on their wedding night. Personally, i'm on his side! I'd prefer to rock a condom for the rest of my natural life, spouse or no spouse. What surprised me is that i've never met a man with that same mentality lol.
He was concerned about knocking her up. Like i've always expressed, who the hell wants to spend the 1st year of their marriage being pregnant (or in his case dealing with a pregnant woman- those are my words btw) rather than simply enjoying your new life as husband and wife? I sure as hell don't. But i'd also like to throw in there that um...all the vows and trust in the world is not going to keep me from catchin any STDs/STIs you might pick up should your dick decide to become adventurous. Is it effed up to assume that your husby (or wifey, as the case may be) is cheating/going to cheat? Yeah, a lil. But that same trust is the reason why black women, married couples and older adults are the leading cases of new HIV (and probably other STD) infections.
Now the average person will disagree with me. I don't doubt that at all. But i like to make the analogy to the prenup because its pretty much the same thing. You don't think that we'll ever get a divorce and you dont think that i'll turn into a bitter gold-digging vindictive psycho bitch if we do...but you still wanna protect yourself...and i'm suppossed to be ok with that. So why is it such a far leap to say that yeah, i dont think you'll be a cheating bastard...but i wanna use condoms and protect myself just in case you are? Quite frankly, you can get that money you lost in a divorce back...i can't get rid of an STD (with a few exceptions).
I've been told a billion times over that i need to be more realistic about cheating...so this is me being realistic lol. Your thoughts?
Oh and happy new week too by the way :)