Thursday, January 26, 2012

Love and Happiness

"There are too many mediocre things in life, love should not be one of them!"

Without a doubt, one of the things that scares me the most about marriage is that its forever...and what if one day i wake up and look at him sleeping on the right (or left) side of the bed and think to myself: "ugh, i wish this muthaf***a would just leave!"


We've moved on from Kim K and Kris Humphries to Seal and Heidi Klum. "Irreconcilable differences" they say...the love has turned mediocre. It's no longer enough to sustain them. Now, as much as i was taken aback by the fact that Seal and Heidi are divorcing, i don't really care. (Quite frankly i'm waiting for Kimora Lee to get a damn divorce so i can have my man back...Djimon Honsou...SEXY). I don't judge my future based on what random joe-blow is going through. But the fact that I can see it as MY reality, is what really worries me.

Of course, the simple solution to this is to make sure you marry someone who you know you aren't going to easily grow tired of. But how do you do that? Obviously if you knew that one day the ocean of love would run dry as the Sahara, you wouldn't marry that person.

So then what can you really do to make sure you don't suffer the fate of mediocre love?


And since we're on the topic of love...Mr Secret Admirer, where did u go?

And if someone would like to be my valentine...that'd be awesome lol (i'm lol'ing but i'm serious)

9 comments:

  1. And i'm back here! love the new look. I am truly shocked by Seal and Heidi tho, i mean she was preggers most of the marriage and if any1 can live with a preggers wooman that long, you can take pretty much anything. I guess it is what it is.
    Marriage scares me too tho. I really don't plan on ding it more than once and once i get married, i intend to stay married so help me God. Happy new year again dear

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    1. It funny you should mention the preggers thing cuz you're right. And me and my male cousin were having a convo about that just the other day about how he'll survive when his wife is pregnant lol.

      I too only plan on doing it once but you never know what will happen. Thats why we all need to think long and hard and pray on it before we make those decisions.

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  2. Ok,now i just got scared by this post.Really,what if we just wake up one day and realize we're tired of our partner?! *shivers*

    I'm definitely gonna hold on tight to God,He's the only one who won't make things go bad.

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    1. Well thats why marriage takes work, all the love in the world isn't going to make every day with a person a bed of roses!

      Make sure while you remain prayerful, you also remain diligent in your own right to make sure you and your spouse stay on the right track. God helps those that help themselves, so they say.

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  3. The truth, in my opinion, is that you will never know if you'll get tired of the person but like Mr. A-9ja-Great has said, Baba G is the only one who wom't make things go bad so we garro (got to) hold on tight to HIM and HE'll hold on to everything else

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    1. Yes o. Successful marriage comes from lots of prayer and lost of hard work and dedication. At least thats what i think.

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  4. True,at a point you gonna get fed up or tired but what i think is if you really do love this person you shouldn`t..mini vacays away would not be a bad idea too..

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    1. No matter how much you love someone, they are gonna get on your nerves at some point. In fact, those ppl are the ones that'll get on your nerves the most because you care for them so much. The real test is what you are (or aren't) willing to do in those difficult moments.

      I think every relationship needs time apart. Idk if i'd go as far as to say a vacay but definitely spending time with friends or doing something for yourself that maybe doesn't have to include your boo-thang is healthy (as long as its not detrimental to the relationship) and recommended

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  5. What many people consider 'love' is based on feelings, and feelings alone aren't strong enough to base any lasting relationship on. Those feelings won't be there every day, so people need something stronger to hold on to. It's hard work sha, and we need God's help.

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