The Prenuptial Agreement
I am soooooooooooooo anti- prenups! I don't think i could ever really be in favor of one nor do i think i could ever not feel extremely insulted if i were presented with one.
Me and my bestie have this argument all the time. She insists on having one and I insist on not having one. Now i can totally understand how a person can justify having one. You just want to protect yourself and your assets in case things go awry and you end up getting divorced. I get that, believe me i do.
But my thing is, there is something totally wrong about going into the marriage already thinking about the end. Whenever i decide to get married, i intend to stay married. Which, coincidentally is why I am in no rush to jump the broom despite being able to count my all single and/or childless friends on one hand (ok, im exaggerating a little). So when i think of weddings and marriage, the only end i see is hopefully a natural, foul-play-free, death do us part.
I've always thought, why would you even marry someone who 1) you think youre not gonna stay married to forever and 2) you think would run off with your money and leave you destitute. Cuz honestly, as it relates to me, i think if you know me well enough to want to marry me, you should also know me well enough to know that i wouldn't do such things.
My bestie argues that people change. And when it comes to divorce things can get nasty and people become spiteful and will do things just to hurt the other person. You know what they say- hurt people, hurt people (as in, people who have been hurt or are hurting tend to hurt other people)! Yeah, i agree that something like that can happen. But I also know myself very well. As vengeful and spiteful as i can be, im also fair. I would never go out of my way to wrong someone, no matter how badly they've effed up my emotions. I've had plenty of opportunities to do so and haven't.
*Kanye Shrug* Here's hoping future hubby doesn't want a prenup, cuz that could cause some serious problems.