I feel like I can talk about this whole Amber Cole situation. If you don't know about it, basically, Amber Cole is a 14 year old girl from B'More who was video taped (by two other male onlookers) sucking some other lil boy's richard at school. Supposedly, the lil boy she performed the act on was her ex-boyfriend and she did so in an effort to win him back. The video hit the internet. Big bru-ha-ha ensues. Supposedly the boys have been arrested now but I don't know how true that is considering all the other fraudulent information that has been flying around regarding this situation including fake copies of the video and fake twitter/facebook accounts being created on behalf of Miss Cole.
There have been so many comments, questions, accusations, and jokes made about this situation. My major concern is that so many people look at this situation and say "whats the big deal".
This whole situation is FULL of big deals. First you have a 14 year old girl performing oral sex, regardless of who and how old the recipient is. Second, she is doing so in front of 2 other boys. Third, she is doing this... out in the open... AT SCHOOL! Fourth, she is being (with or without her knowledge, i don't really know) videotaped! If nothing else matters, that should because its ILLEGAL *child pornography anyone?* How anyone, especially an adult, can have the nerve to say that this is no big deal, is beyond me.
Speaking of adults- i really have a hard time reading all these comments about how folks don't have sympathy for her because she knew what she was doing and how she's just a hoe/slut. When i read this story, all I could think was poor, lost, misguided lil girl...what could possibly be going on in her life that she would or would allow herself to be degraded in such a way. Yeah i know plenty of 14 year olds are out doing this (and God only knows what else) on a regular basis and i know a 14 year old should know better, but that doesn't negate the fact that obviously this child needs help or at least some guidance! What if that were your daughter, sister, niece, or cousin? Bet the reaction would be a whole lot different. Shit, if anything, this story should be making folks take a step back and think what they can do to keep their daughter from being the next Amber Cole (and hopefully how to keep their sons from degrading and objectifying other young girls). Not to mention how many of these so-called adults are probably thanking their lucky stars that camera phones weren't around when they were teenagers.
The other side of the coin are the other young people (and some adults) who look at this and say "so what, she sucked some dude's richard...big deal. Everybody gives head! Why are we demonizing a natural physical desire?" That shit scares the hell out of me. When i was 14, oral was not even up for discussion (it still ain't in my personal life but thats neither here nor there). So for only 1 decade to have passed, to see people view this kind of behavior, certainly at such a young age, as normal is alarming. I don't give a damn how curious you are or how crazy your hormones are driving you, i don't think loose and reckless sex at age 14 is normal nor should it be considered normal. It just makes me wonder, what's gonna be normal 15-20 years down the road when my future kids are 14?
This is so so so so soooooo why i don't want kids, especially daughters. I'm sure a month from now none of us will even be talking about this anymore with the rate new scandals appear and disappear. Even that fact is cause for concern.