If i can't have a child, i will adopt or I just won't have children (im not sold on the idea anyway). I will not pay a surrogate, I will not do in vitro*, i will not take fertility drugs. This is something i stand strong on. I don't currently have any reproductive issues that I know of but I hope that if in the future i do, that whomever i marry understands and respects my stance.
I feel like if God wanted me to have a child, i'd have one. I know too many people who have miracle babies all the time to believe that I should take extreme measures just to say I have a baby. There are plenty of children in adoption centers, foster care, etc that need a good home for me to take all these extra unnecessary steps to make a baby of my own.
The motivation behind this post was an article i skimmed the other day talking about twin reduction. I can't even imagine having to be in a situation where i have to make a decision like that let alone actually going through with it. This is why i am so against fertility drugs specifically.
When you take these drugs, your chance of having multiple births sky-rockets! Basically what happens is these drugs cause the woman to release a gaggle of eggs in hopes that one will be fertilized, but what most often happens is a whole bunch of them end up fertilized. When that happens, it puts the babies and the mother's health in serious risk and selective reduction is advised.
Why would i even put myself in that kind of position? It just seems extremely selfish if you ask me. Jon & Kate (+8) used fertility drugs to conceive the first set of twins and then went back and decided to do it again and ended up with 6 more kids because they decided that they weren't going to abort any of the fetuses. The Octomom did in vitro twice and ended up with (probably on purpose to milk the system) 14 kids.
*The only instance where i feel like i would consider doing in vitro is if i marry another carrier so we can at least make the attempt to have children that don't have sickle cell or carry the trait. (Thanks for reminding me of that Ginger lol)