How long is too long to wait for a marriage proposal?
Personally, at this stage in the game, i think anything more than like 2 years is a bit of an issue...considering that I have a timeline i'm trying to keep. I am trying to be done "raising kids" by the time im 50. As in, the last kid needs to be out of the womb by the time im 32. Now if i only have 1 kid, then i have plenty of time. But if we're talking 2 or 3 then i kinda need to get crackin ASAP, no? In addition to having a house free of minors by age 50, i also don't want my kids to be too close in age. I don't want to be changing more than 1 set of diapers at a time. I honestly want the first to be completely potty-trained by the time im pregnant with the second, if there is a second. Also, i don't want to rush into having kids. I want to enjoy married life, be spontaneous, and focus on just me and the hubby for at least a year or 2 before kids come into the picture.
In case you were wondering, I completely understand how unrealistic this all is. Not only because i know everything happens on God's time and not my own, but also by my own standards and calculations, i should've been married a year ago if i wanted to have 3 kids lol.
In my wedding obsession i have been reading a lot about the topic as of late. I've seen all kinds of ridiculous reasons why people (mainly guys) put off tying the knot. I know there are good reasons (not financially stable, still in school, not ready for that commitment- im actually on the fence about that one) but i've also heard a lot of bs excuses too. Things like "i can't afford the wedding" (simple solution- save up during the engagement period and have a wedding thats within your means), "i can't afford to buy you a ring" ( then buy me a cubic zirconia and upgrade me when we got the funds for a nice ring), "im not ready to settle down" (but we're already in a committed relationship. don't wanna say whats the difference, but whats the difference?) and my favorite: "im not sure you're the one for me" (this excuse is less and less effective with each passing year).
So my next question to you all is:
What do you think is a reasonable excuse for putting off getting married/popping the question?
I don't feel like writing anymore so im just gonna ask ya'll some more questions and anxiously await your feedback lol. #TeamLazy
How long is too long to be engaged?
Do you think people should live together before they get married?
What would be a reason for you to call off your wedding?
What would be a reason for you to get a divorce?
And i'm spent! LOL. look forward to reading you're responses. Hope everyone has a safe and pleasant weekend :)
PS: allow me to throw in there that i'm in no real rush to get married nor am i trying to throw any hints anywhere lol. Im just curious to know you all's opinion, I promise lol.