***Im only speaking/ranting hypothetically. I'm not married and have no clue what it would really be like dealing with these issues.
***I don't believe all men treating their spouses as such, again, im just ranting hypothetically :)
So i was having a discussion with a guy friend of mine about life goals, long-term relationships, etc. So this guy is telling me about his ambitions and eventually we lead off to him not wanting his wife to work. o_O <--thats the face i made
Now, i can only speak for me but HAYLE NAW i can't be a housewife! Or at least not right away. If nothing else, I've spent waaaaaay too much freakin money pursuing this education to just be sittin at home all day Honestly, if you knew how much student loan debt i have it would make your head spin. Aside from that, i don't want to be financially dependent on my (or any) man. God forbid things go sour in the marriage and the guy go ask for divorce, im going to be broke and penniless, with lil to no work experience in my field which will only perpetuate the financial destitution.
Aside from the money- I want to feel fulfilled and I don't think i can do that sitting in the house all day. Don't get me wrong, I know that being a housewife- especially when there are children involved- is no easy feat. But honestly, I think that if all i had to look forward to everyday was cooking and cleaning and taking care of the kids, I'd be hellaciously resentful. Which wont be good for anybody.
Now this further leads the discussion to what a woman/wife's role should be. Im already rolling my eyes here. But i will try and keep my extreme feminism to a minimum here lol. Really though, i am comfortable with "traditional" roles of the man being the provider and the woman taking care of the home. It is what it is. But there are definitely some exceptions here that come with living in this 21st century.
For one, expecting dinner to be hot and ready on the table when you get home from work at 5pm and i don't get home from work until 6pm! Im not freakin houdini here. I dont see why a man can't assist with the cooking and cleaning every now and again. Especially if its an inconvenience to me to be doing it. I've had previous friends/boyfriends that can really burn in the kitchen but have outright refused to do so once they get married. Their logic is "why should i?" My response is: "You wanna eat don't you?!?" lol
Another thing is lack of appreciation. Appreciation for cooking the food, keeping the house, raising the children, loving you down whenever (that one is for me too though lol), etc. Im not a slave and therefore don't HAVE to do any of these things. I would be doing them out of love and devotion to you. A lil appreciation can go a long way o!
Theres many other things i can touch on but i'll stop there for now.